As someone who has devoted an entire professional life to unlocking the code of parenting, I am proud to present to you this month the “essence” of parenting. It comes in the form of “100 Parenting Tips.” These are all based on well-researched information that is available to every mom or dad so that he or she can be at the top of their game as “the expert” of their own child.
While many think that parenting concepts are a matter of opinion and that much is trial and error, the truth is that there is an “essence of parenting;” and you can now find that “essence” available on Parenting Tips with Dr. Sally in a section called “100 Parenting Tips.” All 100 contain that code which I was able to uncover throughout the years. Here are the first five.
1. Take care of yourself before you start your baby or childcare. You will do a much better job if you are not tired, hungry, or overworked.
2. Always be on the lookout for conditions and circumstances that will cause your baby or child difficulty. Sometimes you will get all your clues from what is going on at the moment. Other times you can use past experiences to help you. Whenever something goes wrong, learn from it so that you will be able to prevent it from happening in the future.
3. Continually keep explaining to your child what you expect. You are your child’s first and most important teacher. You may know exactly how you want your child to act in a particular circumstance, but he or she may not know as much as you think.
4. Use praise and encouragement appropriately. Reserve praise for major accomplishments. You encourage when you acknowledge specifics. Phrases like, “pretty colors” and “sturdy tower” generate your child’s self-praise with inner thoughts like, “Good for me” and “I did that well.” This process reduces the dependency on adult praise and helps build child self-esteem.
5. Parenting is about building a positive relationship with your child. The more time you spend building it, the less time your child will have to seek negative attention.
Check in next Wednesday on Wednesday Evening Wine for five more tips.
~ Dr. Sally
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