Hello. My son is 8 and is just recently having issues with the fact that 6 years ago his father walked out of our lives and has never looked back.We recently moved in with my boyfriend and his son.I realize that this is hard on my son because he doesn’t have a relationship with his father and sees my boyfriend and his son so close. My son is extremely emotional and angry at his father and takes his feelings out on us. How do I help him cope and get through this.
Believe it or not, there is a bright future ahead for the two of you. Your situation is filled with opportunity.
The first step is listen to your son express his feelings. As you learn more completely what is bothering him, he will feel more understood. Sometimes what looms large in a child’s mind is something that has an easy fix. Once you get an accurate handle on the situation, you will better be able to provide the proper support.
At the same time start to develop your own new and very confident positive approach. It is time to rebuild. Be sure to emphasize that there is no one family pattern that is right and that the two of you can work together to build yours and make it wonderful in its own way.
Use this new and positive energy to help your child grow, change, and enjoy life. This kind of spirit will soon take on a life of its own. Sports, hobbies, classes, and other kinds of activities are great avenues for your child to explore. New books can also be helpful. Look for projects that you can work on together. Come up with your own ideas. Have fun as you two embark on this next chapter in your lives.
September! The Month of the Babies
Life is a forward process… always. We continually build it. We learn from the past to live better in the present, and we use the present to build the future. With babies all our trial-and-error is helpful. For older ones, keep up the same momentum to move past the difficulties, enjoy the present, and build that future with every ounce of positive energy that your body will allow.
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