Question: My two boys, ages three and five have a way of constantly arguing about the slightest things. Is there a way to end this problem? It is very wearing.
Answer: That’s an easy one. Absolutely yes. Your job as a parent is to do whatever you can to help both your children have the finest experiences every day. One day influences the next, and every minute counts. Arguing produces negative energy, and that is not good.
What do you do? Here is a three-part formula to follow every time.
- Stop the problem.
- Figure out what caused it.
- Teach both children how not to have the same kind of problem again.
Next, help each child get re-directed in a more positive way.
Believe it or not, if you keep following this formula, your boys will soon pick up on it and start to use it themselves. Just like any kind of positive attention, it is much better than negative. In the end the positive energy will feel much more fulfilling to them both.
Remember, “You are child’s first and most important teacher.” When something has gone wrong, it cannot be undone. There is no need to dwell on it. What is most important is for everyone involved to learn from it. On the very highest level, your boys will be learning from your example.