Question: My husband and I are no longer together. My son’s life is mixed between the two of us. When he is with me he tells me he is not happy because we are not together. I have explained to him in every way that I know how that his father and I are fine and that we are both better off not being together. However, he still always ends up in the same state of mind of feeling bad about our situation. What can I do or say to help him see and accept the very positive aspect of our current situation?
Answer: I totally understand your dilemma. What has occurred in your life and for your husband is good news and a positive solution to your former difficult days, and you so much want your child to understand that and feel relaxed about it.
Therefore, the message to your son lies within the concept of focus on his life. Happiness develops from the inside out. Help him remove himself from thinking about you two, what you are each doing, and what makes each of you happy. Bring him the very message he needs to hear—“Happiness is for yourself, not others. Keep your own happiness.”
Main idea: “Accept what you have and make yourself happy.”
Back to answering the original question. A family apart can be happy in a different way. Family structure is on the outside. Happiness is unstructured and emerges from the inside.
No need to work on making parents happy. Inner happiness holds the key!
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