The First Three Years!
What if all it takes to wipe out violence in young adults is “nurturing love, guidance, support, protection and early education” in the first three years! Interestingly enough, that is what the research says.
There are seven pieces of evidence that tell this story. Here is the first!
The Classic Educational Rattle
Before manufactured toys became the big business of today, wooden toys from Europe led the way. Here is one designed in the 1970’s by a Finnish (from Finland) manufacturer. It will open your eyes:
It is a rattle specifically designed to treat a baby as the masterful human being that he or she is. Babies are incredibly sharp and insightful. They need to know it all and right from the start! Here they learn what makes the exact noise that they hear.
A baby’s brain knows every trick of the trade. From the moment of birth it begins learning in every area and never stops. Of course, they can learn only what we as parents and others present.
“This fast-paced learning keeps taking place throughout the first three foundation years of life.
Learning continues after these years but never again at such a fast pace or in such a powerful way.
That is why we say, “Every child should have the finest experiences, and every parent should know how to provide them.” There is not a moment to waste.
There are two more toys that illustrate this concept and four books. I will tell you about these little by little, but most important is to start now to spread the word about the absolute musts for these precious first three years and how to make them happen for every little one born today.
The research continues …
Children deprived of “nurturing love, guidance, support, protection and early education” are at risk of a legacy of impairment leading directly to crime and violence. The original research was done in the early 1990’s by the Carnegie Commission. The multi-million dollar study was reported in 1994 in a document called Starting Points.
Back to “mass murders,” there is no way around it:
The result of missing all of these five precious factors that are necessary for basic positive development are causes that move children closer to the devastation of “disconnection,” a true lack of bonding and attachment that is wreaking havoc in our society today. There are many different manifestations of this kind of parent involvement, and many or even most are not intentional. However, no matter the degree or how the pain and suffering are delivered, some form of “disconnection” is the result.
Violence is not new, but mass murders are. They are a clear reflection of the most serious of problems during these first three years. We have to do everything in our power to alert and teach every parent about these dangers and also give them simple tools for positive daily parent-child interactions. The more connection the better. Let’s spread the word!
I will continue to keep you informed.