Tip 46 –Teach your child the magic of the words “thank you.”
The key words for showing appreciation are “thank you.” Start by using these words often with your own child. The more you use them, the more your child will use them too. Soon it will become second nature for you both.
The way to teach your child to say “thank you” is to say “thank you” to him or her.
Here are some common ways to say it:
“Thank you for helping me carry the food.”
“Thank you for watching your little sister.”
“Thank you for putting all your toys away.”
As you look around for different ways to say “thank you,” you will see that opportunities are endless.
“Appreciation plays a large role in the friend-building process. When you show appreciation to others, they in turn will show appreciation to you. Well-known psychologist William James said, ‘One of the deepest drives in human nature is the drive to be appreciated.” Peale, p. 177
In the parent-child relationship, there are many opportunities for asking, commanding, and demanding things of your child. However, you now know there are equally as many, if not more, ways to show appreciation. Being aware of the real magic words “thank you” can dramatically enhance your whole relationship with your child.