Submitted by mychildfeels.com

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Hi Jennifer,

I’ve always felt my daughter was maybe gifted somehow. She is 8 years old and extremely hard on herself. I think she is a perfectionist and gets very upset if she doesn’t do something perfect the first time. She then shuts down and won’t redo something. I am hoping this website might help me respond to these outbursts. She also has difficulty handling conflict with her peers. Her father (who doesn’t live with her) doesn’t think these are things to worry about but I do.

- Julie

Hi Julie,

Thanks for your question. You may be on the right track with your daughter. Gifted children have many of the characteristics you are describing. Giving up quickly, melting down when they can’t master something right away, anxiety, struggles with peers, even tactile or taste issues. They can also be very dramatic and get incredibly upset, crying and sobbing, claiming that life is awful and can be very difficult to soothe at times. Gifted children have big emotions. I call them tidal wave emotions because they can have a hard time regulating.

Think of it this way: the left brain which understands patterns and sequences is logical, mathematical and reasonable. In gifted children, it also understands too much.

The right side of the brain, whose job it is to regulate emotion, can’t cope with it all. These kids tend to be worriers, stressing out about things before they even happen. At six years old, they could be lying in bed worrying whether they will have a good job when they grow up and get really worked up about it.

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